The Bible says that the man will leave his father and his mother and will attach himself to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. Gn 2v24 / Matt 19v5 / Eph 5v31.
Marriage is therefore an alliance between a man and a woman, which must not be broken. However, this covenant can be broken in case of adultery without repentance, for God compares marriage to His Church and Him, when we are redeemed and purified by God and now we belong to Him, we are in covenant with Him, that's why the Bible says in Eph 5: 25-33: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
When we turn out from God to other gods, God sees us as adulterers and so our covenant with Him breaks, unless we return to Him repenting.
What we notice in the scriptures is that it's the man who divorces his wife and not the other way around, it is said that the woman must not separate from her husband, but that if she separates, she must remains without remarrying or being reconciled to her husband, and the husband not repudiating his wife. (1Cor7v10) We see here that only man can repudiate his wife.
When the disciples of the Lord Jesus asked Him this question: Why did Moses command to give a divorce letter to the woman and to divorce her? The Lord answered by saying: He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matt 19v8-9.
Indeed in the Old Covenant, Moses had allowed divorce if the man found fault in his wife, he had to give her a divorce letter, but she had the right to remarry to another man (Deut 24v1-4 ), this permission provoked a divorce for any reason and caused a lot of suffering among the people. But the Lord Jesus puts everything in order by saying that divorce will only be allowed in the case of the woman's adultery, so the man had the right to repudiate his wife, the covenant having been broken by adultery. But if there is no adultery and the man divorces his wife because he loves another woman and wants to marry her, he commits adultery with that woman and therefore becomes guilty. It is therefore clear that a man can remarry in the event of divorce because of adultery.
There are cases where the woman leaves her husband for another man and asks for a divorce if after several attempts of reconciliation, if the woman insists on divorce, the husband can therefore grant her the divorce, and he can remarry.
There is another case where the woman leaves home for quarrels or adultery of her husband, after several attempts of reconciliations if the woman insists nevertheless to divorce, the husband can grant her the divorce, in this case the Bible does not tell us if the man can remarry or remain alone all the rest of his life, but on the other hand it is said that the woman does not separate from her husband, if she separates, that she remarries not, and that she is related to her husband as long as her husband is alive (1Cor 7v39), but if she remarries or has extra-marital relations with another man, she becomes adulterous with her new husband or companion, the man who marries her will also be adulterous (Matt 5v32), and therefore her ex-husband can remarry, the alliance having been broken.
Here is another case where a servant of God can remarry: when his wife is a non-believer or if she converts to another religion and adores another god, in this case she becomes pagan, and if she wants divorce, the husband can grant her the divorce, and therefore he is free to remarry, because the Bible says that if the unbelieving woman wants to separate, that she separates. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 1Cor 7v15.
NB: Beloved in the Lord, our God hates divorce, but there are cases of exceptions for God is just, so we as Christians must be careful when we judge those who divorce and remarry, we must analyze their situation according to the word of God before stigmatize them. We must not condemn what God does not condemn.
God bless you! Hawa Esther Maiga
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